If you have heard others repeatedly say to you “stop taking things so personally” with a tone of exasperation and frustration, and heard yourself say “everybody is just against me, I can’t seem to do anything right” then it might be time to put down those victim-mentality glasses that taint the way you see the world. I’m guessing that you feel always under attack, like you are never good enough, that nobody ever listens to you, they are always challenging what you say, and you feel so alone in the world.
Written by Telana Simpson How motivated are you to achieving your goals? In previous articles I spoke of frames of mind and how they relate to communication. Well, these frames of mind also influence how we communicate with ourselves, and thus motivate ourselves. One particular frame of mind is very much linked to our motivation, and the direction we tend to send our mind and focus our attention. […]
Written by Telana Simpson Frames of Mind– Part 3 We’ve been exploring Frames of Mind that are common, especially in the work place, and how they effect communication. We looked at the preferred size of information people use when communicating and reasoning in Part 1, and the frames of mind about dealing with instructions in Part 2. The last frame of mind in this series that I’d like to share with you is about how we work with and compare data and information. […]
Written by Telana Simpson Frames of Mind– Part 1 Every person you meet today, who you engage with in conversation, who you try to influence or who tries to influence you in some way, is operating from some frame of mind. It is this frame of mind that is behind or above the actual words that they are using. It is this frame of mind that determines their perspective; that determines what they value, their style of thinking and feeling, and pattern for choosing and behaving. All of which we experience through how that person communicates with us. I’d like to share with you some frames of mind that are most common, especially in the workplace, and that effect communication. […]